Positive reinforcement is a parenting tool that smart moms and dads have been using for years to raise their children. Instead of treating and teaching children with harsh words, tones and actions, this technique does the complete opposite – it uses endearments and love to encourage good behaviour.

This positive form of parenting also instills a culture of constructive thought within your household, and teaches children to treat their peers with the same love and respect that you show them.

Treating your child with respect and kindness also helps them learn the difference between right and wrong, teaching them valuable lessons and instilling in them a compassionate outlook that will stay with them for life.

Both children and adults also like to be told that they are appreciated. We all like to know that we are loved, and to be a part of a positive environment in general.

Here are ideas for some positive things you can say to your child every day.

  1. I’m proud of you.
  2. I love you.
  3. You are so beautiful – inside and out.
  4. Nobody is perfect, but you are pretty close.
  5. Just be yourself – it’s the best you there is!
  6. You are very good at that!
  7. We all fall down. It’s how we get up that really matters.
  8. Have a great day at school.
  9. You are always in my thoughts.
  10. I can see how hard you have tried.
  11. You’re so creative.
  12. I believe in you.
  13. You’re growing up so fast!
  14. You are making some awesome progress with _______.
  15. I am grateful for you.
  16. When you’re happy, I’m happy.
  17. It isn’t going to be easy, but if anyone can do it – it’s you.
  18. Thank you so much for all your help.
  19. I enjoy your company.
  20. Believe in yourself, always.
  21. You are a kind person.
  22. I love looking at the world through your eyes.
  23. This family wouldn’t be the same without you.
  24. This family wouldn’t be the same without you.
  25. I forgive you.
  26. I learn new things from you every single day.


It is important to remember that words hold true when followed up by actions. There is no point in merely saying all these positive things to your children – show them in your own behaviour that what you are saying is true.

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